In a recent newsletter from my friend, Aleesha Nash, she asked, “what was the biggest lesson of 2012? Of course, this questions comes on the heels of a million and one “2012 wrap up” and “year in review” blog posts.
When I think of wrapping up a year, usually it a list of goals, mostly unaccomplished, or tasks I set in a fit on the first of the year. In 2011, I was a bit ambitious yet wishy washy. The goals where hard to call accomplished because there was nothing specific about them. I tried to do things a bit differently in 2012, setting quantifiable goals so I could measure progress.
Working through the Authentic Dreaming Worksheet by Danielle LaPorte and her subsequent audio prezzie “A story about desire”, I began to realize I was still barking up the wrong tree. I think my biggest lesson of 2012 was that, for me, I need to think of my goals in terms of setting habits, not just accomplishing “X”.So, up for 2013 is a goal model focus on developing the habits to achieve dreams.
I learned two things:
- I need to get down to the DESIRE and THEN set goals to get me closer.
- Almost every goal or desire I have requires HABIT.
For instance, a 2012 goal was ride “1000 miles”
- The real goal was to lose weight. And the “lose weight” goal was actually about a desire to feel energized, vibrant, and healthy.
- Even if i had crossed off the 1000 mile goal, I hadn’t been consistent… huge pushes here and there and lots more time just NOT exercising at all. What I really needed was to establish an iron clad habit so that exercise lost it’s optional status.
Another goal was write 365 pages
- I am supposed to be a writer. I DESIRE nothing more than tugging a story thread by thread from my mind and putting it on paper. While the goal wasn’t a bad one, it didn’t get to the heart of the matter. As I thought about that one all year, I thought, well, I set that because I really just want to finish this novel… then I finished the novel. I found that finishing the novel by brute force and not by steady habitual progress, when it was done, I stopped writing… but the purpose for the goal was keep writing!
- Yes, of course I’m [still] celebrating but beyond hunkering down and writing like a maniac in sporadic spurts, the real dream/goal is to write constantly, to always have a project going, even if it’s blog posts or morning pages. Another HABIT.
In 2012 i was intentional about setting quantifiable goals. Some I achieved, most i did not.
In 2013 I’m focused more on setting habits that will move me closer to my dreams and desires. If a new habit takes 60 days, I’m not going to start them all at day one.
So, down to the “Feelings” or desires..
In 2013 I want to feel:
- healthy, energized, vibrant
- spiritually connected
Each month I will set just a few, if not just one, habits to establish that bring me closer in line with my desired feelings.
What are you working on this new year?